Here's the scenario:
You have just received your first Quiet Conversations Journal Kit in the mail and you excitedly rip the plastic covering off, remove the QC Kit, write you and your journaling partner's names on the magnets and apply the perfect picture of the two of you to the circular magnet. The trio is now affixed to your refrigerator and you are ready to begin this new and exciting journey toward deeper connection with your loved one! You open your new journal, pen in hand and stare at the first blank page... and freeze... NOW WHAT?
Don't panic! That blank page may be intimidating if you don't already have a conversation starter in mind, but it doesn't have to be. You can begin by simply saying hello to your partner, and instead of asking he or she how they are doing, write down how you are doing.
This can be challenging for some; to actually put thought into how you are feeling and write it down on paper may feel awkward at first. But notice how that changes once you start writing, and also take notice of how you feel when you are finished writing your entry. Most people report a feeling of relief and/or clarity, something else that I frequently hear is "I had no intention of writing what I did, I don't know where it even came from!" You have just given yourself the gift of emotional release and now your QC journaling partner will have the very same wonderful opportunity!
If you still find that you are having a hard time getting the pen going, check out some of the QC Starters on the first page of your Quiet Conversations journal. They are very thought provoking and you just might learn something about your QC partner that you never knew!
One time I asked my son in his QC journal to write to me about one of his happiest memories and I was astounded to read that it was one day on a vacation where we hadn't planned anything. He woke early and spent his whole day fishing straight through until dark- he never even caught a fish! But for some reason he has very fond memories of that day that I never knew about. The funny thing is that my husband and I had felt a little bad that day for not planning some sort of fun and exciting event...come to find out through our QC journal, it wasn't even necessary!
My best advise for your first QC entry is to just simply let it flow.... maybe you'll write one sentence or maybe you'll write four pages. There aren't any rules to follow so just relax, take a deep breath, then open your heart and write what you feel.
My very best wishes for your greatest QC success!
~Kimberly Harris
Well it's been an exciting few weeks! It's been a lot of fun being part of so many different relationship blogs and feeling like I can help those in need through talking about the benefits of journaling with a partner. The one thing I continually hear is how helpful the QC Kit that is enclosed in each journal is. I think everyone agrees that it is the key to success in getting their children involved- especially teenagers... but younger kids enjoy it too because it's sort of like a "you've got mail" game for them. It's very exciting for kids to have the picture magnet under their name card and to read what Mom or Dad has written to them!
ReplyDeleteIt's proving to be fun for a lot of adults as well- I've enjoyed receiving mail from wives who thought that their husband wouldn't write back, only to find out that they do!
Keep up the good work everyone and pass the word out to friends and family about Quiet Conversations Journal Kits... you never know who might really need a good resource to help with their relationship with a loved one.